How To Quit Facebook: 4 steps and 7 reasons

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Sometime ago I got motivated to change my life for the better. I began to wonder where I should start and it hit me – Facebook! There’s that son of a biscuit that eats my free time away. It violates my privacy and clears my memory blank on how to communicate with human beings vocally, vividly, normally. The easiest way to escape the problem is to solve it straight away! Join me on this journey.

7 REASONS TO QUIT FACEBOOK

1. Attention maniac

I travel a lot. I do photography a lot. And one day when I was posing somewhere in the middle of the Spain I caught my mind on one obsessive though whether or not I will get “likes” from my friends and comments! And how wide my smile should be to get more and more attention? I love comments! Wait a minute?! What?! “So you actually travel across the globe, admiring the new wonders of life from its difference of perspective just to post pieces of it for your 2000 friends’s amusement ?!” – I told myself and was amazed how stupid it sounded. And yes, I declared myself an attention maniac. I didn’t like the way it sounded. So I’m in the process of changing it.

2. Photoshop your life

A great waste of time on Facebook is when people spend their precious time to photoshop almost each picture taken to make their life seem more than it actually is. May I just skip the part when I gush and tell how ridiculous of a time waster that is? And why would anybody want to photoshop their life? So anybody else would feel worse in comparison?! I Guess so. But if that trend is strong enough then there will be one day when somebody else’s life will seem more interesting, more successful than the one you have… And you will spend huge amounts of time admiring their adventures, travel stories and their moments of brilliance instead of creating your own…

3. Employer check

“Pictures of last night ended up online – we’re screwed…” How many of you guys wake up on Sunday morning just to discover some wild pictures from last night “Hangover” type on Facebook ?! How much time did you spent untagging yourself from this nightmare ? What would your boss say if you were seen on the top of the table dancing your tush off half naked?! Imagine that. Do you really have that extra time to worry about such nonsense?!

4. Friendship that matters

Ever wondered why life has it’s tendency to cross some people away from your picture? There is a good reason for that. So why would you desperately want some people who have nothing to do you with The you of today only because you shared some old memories 10 or even 20 years ago to be back in your life?! What’s the purpose?

Keep in touch with those who matter the most in your life.

5. Social for real

I failed to remember when was the last time I actually gathered together with my friends on a weekly basis. What happened?! What amazed me the most is a response of one of my Facebook friends Kat on one of my emails. I asked how she was doing and all what I received in reply was simple: “Check my Facebook updates! Everything is there so nothing is the mystery”. So Kat, no offence, in reply here I will just say that I value friendship that matters and those who have 2 sec to call me back just for the sake of it. That’s why Not only I get rid of old clutter once in 6 month I also getting rid of highly unsociable “friends” ;)

6. TMI (to much of information)

I will not be the first who will say how ridiculous some posts in the news on Facebook are. So here is a simple question: how badly do you crave for an unnecessary information overload? How badly do you have to know if your cousins daughter have peed all over the map with more photos on subject to come? How badly do you need to know how many drinks your younger brother had consumed last Friday night? If somebody has no idea how to stop this madness of sharing every little detail of their daily life at least respect yourself enough to gain the control on the amount of incoming useless and unnecessary information!

7. Time waste

The greatest thief in your life is a bad time management. More on that in our previous post .

4 STEPS TO QUIT FACEBOOK

1. I have an announcement to make

First of all make sure you make an announcement so your friends are aware of your desire to no longer be a time waster. Make a post. State the reason. Share it.

2. Save the contacts

Make sure you found the time in your day to save the contacts or any other valuable information.

3. Deactivate or delete?!

There is a difference. Deactivation of your page is a temporary matter. Deletion – once and for good. Which step is more appealing to you is completely up to you.

4. Click and decide.

Now when you learned the difference between deactivation and permanent deletation of your Facebook profile there is one thing left to do. Click and decide to be free from time wasting land. Here is the link which will make you Facebook free!

My sister had an experiment. She deactivated her Facebook profile for the summer period. First she felt the urge to come back after two days of silence to check some updates, statuses and pictures of friends. Than she just stated the fact that she will not be manipulated by that silly habit any more. So the fear to loose friends and not be invited for any parties or fun events – gone completely. None of that ever happened. She created a limited circle of those friends who stayed in touch with her even after she quit Facebook for good. And my sister cannot be happier about it! You can be happy as well. Choose a wise time management over a time wasting. You have a freedom to be yourself here and now…

By Lesya Li
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Lesya Li

Lesya Li

Editor-in-Chief at havingtime.com

Lesya Li runs HavingTime providing readers with helpful tips, inspirational stories and answers on life's challenging questions. She finds joy in sharing her story and hearing about life experiences of others whom she invites and welcomes to share here at HavingTime. At the moment Lesya works on her first book due to be released in 2014. 

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  • alanna

    Get off whilst you can. don’t allow FB to determine your worth, it will destroy your self esteem and confidence… your worth more than that.

  • FlyPrezidente

    I left because I was sure that most of my friends on facebook were not my real friends. Real friends will be there for you and hang out with you but I have never made any memories with any of these people but the fact that we went to the same high school and thats it. In reality i never knew any of them and don’t want to know them especially the shit they post on facebook. You cant even talk to anyone on that damn site without them brushing you off like they are cooler then you and what not but thats not my problem it was my problem for staying on the damn site for so fucking long. But its all gone and it is better to not have one because then you become mysterious and your real friends will come around instead of everyone having you at their convenience.

  • JJ

    Just deactivated. Hard now. I structured my life around my FB Show. Feel a bit isolated. There was too much info out there and I felt defined / caged by the persona I presented. Not using the freed time well though. Sleeping a lot. But I won’t go back. I prefer to be an enigma.

    • http://twitter.com/havingtime Having Time

      Congratulations on the accomplishment! I hope you will feel better soon without isolation involved in the matter… ;) Personally, I spend more free time reading the books I “never had time” to read with all of that social media drama, especially Facebook…. The positive thing is – now you have more free time to do what you love, to spend more time on your hobby etc. That’s great!

  • Max

    the funny thing is that if you replace the word facebook with alcohol or cigarettes then it becomes obvious: facebook is an addictions and getting rid of an addiction is a relief and apparently quitting facebook or alcohol takes similar steps i.e. one day at a time.. like gio says: I quit a year ago and that was one of the choices I enjoyed most in my live…

  • Kelli

    I love this. I’ve been deactivated for over a month now for all of the reasons you listed above, and I love it. I’m freeeeee! I think your post just inspired me to delete it for good! It’s a huge time waster, and so much of the time I feel bad about myself after logging in. I also realized I became an attention addict, and I don’t like that! Time to change! ;)

  • Francesca

    Loved this as I am just ni the process of saving all of my 1000′s of photos from facebook onto my comuter so that I can delete every single bit of it once and for all… wasting my life on facebook is the most depressing wake up call I’ve had and I feel liberated to finally be RID of it!

    I do have to say though, it is rather funny that you have a Facebook ‘Link’ if post icon in the corner of the page….? Ironic?

    Thanks again and lets hope the rest of the world wakes up to this soon as well.

  • http://geekpoise.com Evgeny

    Indeed, I am always worried about people tagging me in photos and with facebook changing its privacy settings every month, it’s becoming more and more burdensome…

  • gio

    I quit Facebook over a year ago: that was one of the choices I enjoyed most in my life.
    Facebook was a great waste of time for me and I didn’t realise it for a long time.
    My life got better since then and it allowed me to know which people were real friends as well.
    Someone still asks me to come back but I say them a loud NO! I will never come back again.

    Anyway, thank you for your posts, they’re great. Bye!

    • FlyPrezidente

      Respect.